Some of you may know that my grandma Jan has been fighting with cancer for several months. In the last few weeks, her condition deteriorated and we were told that she didn't have long. She passed away this afternoon.
Grandma was never loud, rarely bold or outspoken, but she taught me powerful lessons through the way she lived.
I believe that one of Grandma's greatest joys was delighting in her family and friends. Most of the photos we have of her show her smiling gently as she watches her family... watching us open birthday gifts, swim in the lake, or chat with one another. I can still remember her laundry closet, the "art gallery" as she called it, where she displayed crafts and drawings my sister and I made. They stayed there until she moved about three years ago. I recall going to her house in elementary school and spending the afternoon cutting out cookies and icing them with her.
Grandma also demonstrated for me the meaning of humble service. She loved to host holidays and birthday celebrations. She never once complained about preparing meals (and they were always huge and delicious). Her house was continually spotless, though I can't remember ever actually seeing her clean it. Anything the family needed, Grandma would quietly provide. A gift card would occasionally appear in the mail with a note telling me it was "for a rainy day." Never needing to be asked, and never asking anything in return, Grandma served us.
As I said before, Grandma wasn't outspoken. Yet she always seemed to me a strong person. She could be independent if she needed to, but she was also a very gentle wife, mother, and grandmother. Always listening, she could tell when a conversation was becoming passionate or confrontational, and she would quietly interject a calming word or gentle pat on the arm. She understood the value of peace in our lives. She understood the need for silent mornings sipping "lake coffee," for quiet Bible study during the day, and for listening to nighttime crickets from the screened porch. She never failed to point out how still the lake was in the evening, and always noticed a hummingbird in the backyard.
I can think of no other way for the Lord to call Grandma to himself than "softly and tenderly." She was a woman who truly understood God's grace for us, and lived daily in his peace.